Does our resilience need a rest?
I have been contemplating this question for the last few weeks or so…
And the more I continue to examine, witness, and reflect,
My answer continuously becomes yes yes yes,
Yes, our resilience absolutely needs a rest...
Resilience is such a catalyst to change and transformation - it is the byproduct of learning to struggle and learning to struggle well. It is the friction of our lives, moments, and growth - using the rough inner & outer edges of experience to sand down and smooth out all the barriers and blockages that keep us separated from our own sacred truth within:
our soul, our light, our love.
But,
If we are constantly in the struggle -
Which lets be real, yall, most of us are -
Where is the room to rest?
Where are the resources to be well?
And when can we slow down long enough to savor all that these struggles of ours are making?
More and more and more lately I see this word, RESILIENCE on shiny display as though it is some badge of honor like, yay! look at you struggling over there! You got this! We got this! And those are all truths I do believe in and hold so tenderly (we do got this, duh!) We are resilient! As hell! But, if we are only constantly enmeshed in the struggle, where is the room for processing the processes we are in?
I believe in sustainable and sacred solutions.
And if I keep pushing my foot down on the gas throttle of my life -
While also witnessing my other foot holding down the brake (the space where our tension and traumas build up and keep us frozen or in fright) - Welp, kids, I ain't gonna get far in my efforts and I am gonna feel the exhaustion…
Can you relate???
My math mind takes me into the equation of a + b = c; where a is the struggle and b is the space of learning to do it well (and be well all in the same) and c is our product, our resilience, brought to us by moving through the mountains and moments and miles that ask so much of us to not give up or in, but to continue through and on -
And continue we will.
We know we can get through the mud because the mud is what we know…
When do we get to know the lotus?
When do we get to radiate out the light?
When can we rest with our resilience?
Instead of always having to create it?
We get so caught up in the struggle that we begin to forget we have a choice of anything else.
We lose sight of the space and ground where we don't need to push or prove a damn thing -
We can just be -
As we are -
Where we are -
And rest within the resilience that is already here and soften and see the strengths we each have already made and hold.
Resilient AF, yall, Resilient AF!
And there's still so much more to us all...
Are we able to slow down enough-
Soften just enough -
To feel into the radiance that exists without force or friction or false promises…
The sacred space of solutions settled right in the center of your own existence…
Waiting to be found
Waiting to be freed...
Can we stop getting stuck in the struggle?
And land gently back into the light of our stories magick and making?
Can we celebrate our rest as much (if not more!) than our resilience?
Can we align with an energy that moves us through suffering,
Stagnation,
And separation?
Back into the space where our bliss, beauty, and belonging just BE?
My heart and my spirit softly whispers:
Yes yes yes yes yes
We can.
And we must.
The question now becomes one of will…
And although I do not know much,
I do know that when we have the willingness to wake up,
Illuminate beyond the darkness of defeat,
And rise into the reset of a new day...
Well beautiful people,
There is always,
always,
always a way.
So may we find our way -
With the least amount of struggle -
And the most amount of joy.
Integral ingredients include care, rest, resources, and support.
May we speak into existence the ingredients needed to ensure this precious space where our will,
Our wisdom,
Our way through,
Shines as bright as 1,000 suns -
Without struggle
Without separation
Without a single ounce of stuck-
I feel our fullness is waiting…
(and has been for quite some time)
Waiting for us to slow down,
Waiting for us to sense into what it is we need to do to restore,
Replete,
Remember,
And regain the capacity,
Creativity,
And compassion to give yourself (mind / body / soul) all you need
And to graciously pour that back into our people,
Planet,
Pauses,
And Pursuits of peace and purpose.
Isn't that what our resilience is all about?
